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Primal Loss

It's been a busy month for me, and Primal Loss is a very long book, but a necessary documentary of the evil that results from divorce; even when that divorce is caused by physical abuse.  It's a hard read for anybody whose lives have only been tangentially touched by divorce like myself, I think it would be a downright impossible read for some of my cousins whose lives have been devastated by divorce.

Having said that, I think this book should be on the shelf or in the Kindle of every priest, and should be lent to anybody in the United States who is contemplating marriage.  Questions should be asked before any marriage, and this book explains why communication and commitment are important.  Also, seeing how other people's marriages have failed, will lead you to do things differently to make sure your own marriage will not.

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